Would just like to have your ideas on how to recover a trauma. I have this friend of mine who's having difficulty to accept on what was happening to her life... ruined by two people...

and now im confused on how to comfort her... and bring her back to normal life.. which is i think very hard at this time...

According to me you should just give it sometime and let the time play its role, I am sure you will find comfort and happiness

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Aditya Rana
India BPO Forum

yes its true..time can heal..

i want to do something for her...im just cautious i might offend or make her feel worst..

... hope u get my point...

I didn't mean she will be alone and time will heal

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Aditya Rana
India BPO Forum

huh! never mind...

Your friend seems to be going through the first stage of depression. My advice would be to treat her as if everything is alright. I am sure you sympathize with her, but if you make it obvious in front of her, she will never forget the negative incident.

Behave normal and encourage her to carry her day to day activities normally. She will eventually learn to adjust.
If you still believe that she needs help, consult a psychologist.Therapy will help.

I hope my advice is useful.

Thank you prena..

i am known to be a psychologist but, at this time im affected by her situation too..

If you are a professional psychologist, you must be aware of the fact that one must not treat their family members and close friends. Bias is obvious in that case.

Please refer her to one of your colleagues for therapy.

Dr. Prerna

No doc, i am not.., we have sent her for counseling now...

do every possible thing to make her happy. Let her enjoy each and every moment of her life. Don't talk to her about the past incident rather ask her about her dreams and try to make it true. You are her friend so you must be aware of her likes and dislikes, her hobbies. Engage her in some hobby class. Divert her mind from those bad memories.
Give her new memories worth cherishing.