I was in relationship with this guy for 1year and in whole one year he made me feel like a queen and always kept me at the top in his priorities, now he has shifted to his hometown as he got a better job there. My mind is asking me to get over him but my heart won't let me.

Day by day i am feeling more pissed which is driving me crazy with undesired reactions and mood swings.

I don't know what to do now

I know you admin/smoothvibes/***** and I am one of regular reader of your articles and threads but This is the first time I am writing and looking for a reply from you and your community.

Hi Sheena

It's really nice to know that you are one of my regular readers, I have taken off my third online identity from the list and request you not to make it public (as i use it on many other forums n blogs and just want to keep it undercover).


About your topic I have something to say but trust me I am not an expert or anything similar, I just write the true part of relationships (at times it might touch raw nerves but its true). In your post you forgot to mention that if the guy wants to stay in touch now or not/ want to meet/ continue or not. If this guy is not staying in touch (which looks like true in your case) anymore then please take it easy and remember it takes some time to come out of any relation or emotions (even if you'll loose your lovely pet dog then also you will feel the same). In any deep relationship you start talking/meeting the person everyday, every hour, which makes it your routine or habit and when this part disappears you start feeling like something is missing from your schedule, this is what's happening with you too. I am not saying that you didn't love that guy but just try to understand that if he has moved on with his life then you also need to do the same, this cycle of life never stopped for anyone and will not stop for you too.


To Overcome

There are number of things you can do, I am just sharing the things which I do to overcome anything

• Try to write about the same and keep it safe and secure with you, this gives you a really different feeling (try it) and if you like then share it with me or any of your close friend.
• Keep yourself messed and busy with other social things and people around so that your mind stay out of old memories.
• Stop listening to break up type songs (this is what normally girls do)
• Pick 6-8 pegs of vodka and burn out all of your anger and confusion in same night.
• Hang out with happy and jolly people who don't like talking about him, stay away from those who always keep asking hows your bf or anything similar.
• Look for your type of fun to keep the past out of your mind.
• Try to spend more and more time at work and outside so that when you reach home you are already so exhausted that you have no energy left to do anything apart from sleeping tight.
• Avoid going to lonely places.
• Avoid traveling alone as this is the time when you do nothing much apart from thinking.

IMO: Whatever you said that clearly tells me that the guy is not in touch with you anymore be it phone, mail or anything and he is ignoring you. The best idea is to soft delete one year of your life from mind and move on but if you really love him then be a sport and grab him out of hell or wherever he is.

Here I close my post with a very nice quote which just came in my mind

Dictionary meaning of Close and Open are opposite
but I am open to those only who are Close to me.


aadi

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Aditya Rana
India BPO Forum

hi Sheena, the first question you must ask yourself is - are you in love with him and is he in love with you ?
Is he still in contact with you ?
if these don't match, its tough to get this out of mind but you can divert your free time into some thing useful which will help u forget this person

There is a nice saying Out of sight n Out of mind
Its applicable in my case and i am not sure if you can try this or not.

@admin: you are good with these terms too
i thought you know about computers and servers only