My Wife is pregnant from last 2½ months and from last about 1 month we had no sex at all, Is it OK to have sex during pregnancy or not & if we can then till which month we can experience safe sex. Sometimes I feel urge for sex but I never find any other option then avoiding it.

This is my very first post on this board and the question which I am asking here is something which i can not discuss with my family doctor, I tried speaking to some of my friends about it but never got any satisfactory answer, any help would be appreciated.

This is one the the most common thing i came across on number of other forums too, the only thing different I can see here is a guy asking this question otherwise in most of the cases females put this question, trust me i am happy to see this

If i come back to your question then the first thing I would like to say is to control your emotions for few more days as its not advised to go for sexual relationship during first 4 months of pregnancy, from 4th to 7th month you can go for sexual relation with you partner but you need to take some precautions before getting involved.

DO NOT try missionary position (typical sex position in which man is on the top) this may give stress and weight on women which can cause issues.

Avoid intercourse from sixth to twelfth week of pregnancy as there are chances of miscarriage and avoid it in last two months too.

Avoid oral and anal sex too.

If you want safe sex during pregnancy then you can try spoon sex position or sitting positions to avoid giving stress on foetus.

There are few more things i want to pin up here, during this time women goes through a totally different time and she might not feel that much urge for sex as you feel so consider giving her care and touch of love. If she is experiencing number of mood swings then pills or doctor is not the one who can help but you are the one who can help her to come out of it.

During this time most of the men get involved into extra marital affairs which is not correct, as you were the part of previous act which she is dealing with now so keep holing on (hand)

Apart from my suggestion, we have our official doctor here who can give her expert comments on this, please wait for her reply too.

Wish you a great married and family life ahead dude.

aditya
Administrator
India BPO Forum

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Aditya Rana
India BPO Forum

I will agree with Aditya on this one.. but by the books coitus(sex) should be avoided during the first trimester (first 3 months) and during the last 6 weeks.

Sex is considered safe during this period only if its a normal pregnancy.

To be certain that its a normal pregnancy you should consult your gynaecologist. If any significant complications are anticipated by your doctor then sex is not advised. Conditions like placental praevia, previous fetal loss, chances of preterm labor etc.. are considered high risks.

Some suggestions:
1) Maintain proper hygiene of the pelvic area before and after coitus.

2) Make sure the partner does not have STDs like chlamydial infection or genital herpes

3) Avoid lubricants gel/cream. They might cause allergic reactions.

4) Most women are uncomfortable because of the size, try to find a comfortable position and avoid violent sex. All positions are fine becase the baby is protected by a thick mucus plug at the cervix and the strong uterine wall. But again it should be a normal pregnancy and extra force should not be used.

IN CASE YOU NOTICE SPOTTING/ BLEEDING, AVOID SEX AND CONSULT YOUR DOCTOR.

This is a totally different experience for both the mother and the father. Enjoy every moment of it!!! and Happy Parenting!!